Dear Fisher,

My name is Tabby and I am a recently rescued kitty. That’s exactly why I have a problem. I live with a family of 2 adult humans, 2 young kids and 1 cat. The cat Tiger was also a rescue kitty, but he seems to have forgotten what that was like. Talk about Lord of the Manor!

I am a male cat, about 2 years younger than Tiger. They suspect he is 5 years old now and has lived with them for 1 year. Tiger acts like he doesn’t want me around at all. He likes to attack me and he doesn’t care if the children are around or not. The adults worry the kids will get caught in the crossfire, and I guess I would be the one to go if anything bad happened to them. I also worry about the kids and about being ousted from a home I could really learn to love. What should I do to help solve this situation?

Tabby

Dear Tabby,

Congratulations on your recent rescue! I would caution you to not try too hard to make everything perfect right from the get go. That is more than your new family should expect and causes a lot of undo stress for you. They must give extra and equal attention to you both. Know that they would not have taken you in if they did not want you. Truth be known, Tiger probably wanted a little brother, too, before he actually got one.

The socialization factor plays a large role depending on the extent of Tiger’s homelessness (and yours). Cats can be pretty territorial and if either of you were kittens when separated from your potential societies, it is tough for you to start sharing time and space with another cat. All involved must accept the fact that you may never be close pals, but if you can reach a “tolerable” relationship, it will benefit your whole household.

If the unexpected attacks continue, one of you should be put in time out for awhile. Then, your humans can gradually re-introduce you to one another very slowly. If you are chosen for the separation, do not despair. Do not feel picked on. Remember the safety of the children is involved and so is the future of your happiness. Think of it as an honor to be chosen the most valuable player in the solution.

Perhaps Tiger will have to take his turn at separation, too. That would be the best way to handle things. Neither of you are really at fault, so you should each take a turn. Only when each of you gives up the need to rule the roost will you be able to co-exist. This can take awhile. It is best for you to remain calm and not display any fear of either Tiger and his attacks, or having to leave the house. Fear makes you look weak, and for now, Tiger is probably playing off that attitude.

Your adult humans must be very careful not to get in the way if you two are involved in a cat fight. Since the little kids are around this display, they must also be instructed to slowly walk away from the melee. There are some other ways to stop your battle, according to information found at the Humane Society your humans might find interesting.

First they could use a small water gun and squirt water at the two of you. Think of this as a way to cool off your tempers. A second try could involve tossing small soft toys at you. If you are very lucky, the toys may also contain some catnip, which can be a great “equalizer” as you may both get very limber and sleepy. Not a bad idea for either of you!

Your friend,
Fisher

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Dear Fisher,

I’m trying so hard to be calm, but the excitement of the Holiday has really gotten me going, and going, and going. I am pretty sure it is starting to annoy my people, because now they do the Christmas wrapping behind closed doors. Boy, I wanna help!

Then last night, they were having a quiet moment and all snuggled on the couch looking so cute, and silly me jumped up on the coffee table and was going to jump into their laps, but on the way, my furry tail crossed over the top of the candle. Boy, nothing like smelly singed cat hair to interfere with a little romance. I really feel bad about it. What can I do to make it up to them?

Maggie

Dear Maggie,

I remember well how much fun it is for a kitten to get into the wrapping paper and then bounce around on 3 feet because the Scotch tape is stuck to the 4th foot. But, be very careful about some of the dangers of the Holiday hoopla at your house. You already know about the candle! I am just glad you were not hurt. Your people were not as mad as you might surmise, but rather they were worried for your safety and maybe felt a little embarrassed about having a lit candle around a “lit” kitten.

Kittens have a tendency to want to explore anything new, and the gift wrapping and ribbon can be too much to ignore. Your people are wise to put all the fixings out of your reach because you could get all caught up in the ribbons and bows, tape and stickers, and whatever else they are using. It would not take a very long length of ribbon going down your throat to cause a serious digestive problem. And, of course, everyone knows you would not cause trouble on purpose. It is just your youthful curiosity.

Our friends at the ASCPA have published a helpful list for you and your folks. Their advice includes: do not sample the lovely floral arrangements, boughs of holly and live mistletoe - they can make you very sick. Do not drink Christmas tree water – it is a breeding ground for bacteria. No chocolate! No people food hand-outs! There is more at their site ASPCA. If you are starting to feel like the world is against your having fun for the Holiday, just remember that everyone cares about you, and you are having a fine life without getting into these possible dangers.

Make sure your people see this: If you suspect that your animal companion has eaten a potentially toxic substance, call your veterinarian or the ASPCA Animal Poison Control Center’s emergency hotline at (888) 426-4435 for round-the-clock telephone assistance. A fee may apply.

I found a really fun account of “Wrapping Christmas Presents With a Cat in the House” at wrapping presents. I hope you get a chance to check it out. While you are reading it (and totally relating to it), I want you to realize it would not have been written if not for so many other joyful little kitties getting into the same mischief. You are the essence of a kitten, and that is a good thing.

Your friend,

Fisher

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Dear Fisher,

As you can see I’m a big, muscular, handsome tom-cat! However I seem to be having difficulty in how to handle a Golden Retriever, Jack, who is now a habitant of my domain. I’ve tried swatting him and biting him on the nose but nothing seems to work. He takes great joy in chasing me and I am personally getting sick of it. The other “intruder” on my turf is a cocker spaniel, Bailey, and he knows enough to give me my space. Any ideas on how I can train this brute?

Louis

Dear Louis,

Of course you are irritated with the constant chasing. The thing you must think about is your mode of behavior in retaliation. If swatting and biting of the nose is not working, perhaps you should think up a new plan. For instance, can you say “aloof”? It seems to me that Bailey uses this tactic well and it is working for the two of you. The more detached and unapproachable you can make yourself – and I know many cats who master this automatically – the less interest Jack will have in you.

You and Jack are just displaying parts of your different personalities. Big dogs tend to need much exercise to use up their restless energy. Big cats tend to not exercise so much, but rather just take life easy. Neither of you must accept any blame for your circumstance, but Jack does not see his actions toward you as a problem. You see a problem, and therefore must consider how you can change your attitude to make the situation better for you.

Jack sounds like he is in high prey drive, and as you have found out, once set in motion, he is hard to stop. This is where your humans might need to come into the picture. It is very hard to stop the chase once is has begun, but if they can look for the signs leading up to it they can help put a stop to the madness before it starts. The littlest signs that Jack is going into high energy mode should indicate to them that he needs to step outside – without you! It would be a perfect time to toss a Frisbee or tennis ball at the back fence and let him run off some of the steam.

Be very sure that you are not operating out of fear. Also be very sure you are not tempting him with little quirks of your own. Your humans can again watch for these tell-tail signs and avert your behavior. Cats have a way of staring at the “enemy” with their ears back and their tail wrenching back and forth. This particular tail action has quite the opposite effect of dog tail wagging. It is a defense ready action. So, you have on the one hand, the energetic ready-to-romp dog, and on the other, the defensive, ready to rumble cat. Hmmmm. Get the picture?

If your humans can pick up on these gestures, they can scoop you up and coddle you and you will first of all feel safe. Maybe even a little smug which if fine, but do not be too quick to show it. The ideal situation is to put a halt to the chasing, swatting and biting before is gets out of hand and the two of you are off to the races and their commands will likely become nothing more than background noise.

For more information and interesting advice, check out this web site: dogplay.

Your friend,

Fisher

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