Dear Fisher,
Oh what I’ve been through. I found myself in a new home when my people couldn’t take care of me ‘cuz they were having trouble taking care of themselves. They found me a new home with a loving woman. I thought I would be queen, but I’m in trouble again. Two cats are already here and I’ve had to plot and plan to be charge.
I started life on the street and I know how to fight for myself. The other two cats are not happy with my feisty ways. Now everybody is mad at me. I might have to find another home because I don’t know how to get along. It’s been several months and things aren’t getting any better. I just don’t like other cats. What can I do?
Dear Mary,
I am happy you keep meeting up with loving people, and my first reaction is to keep trying until you get it right. Several months is long enough for all of you to adjust, and if you cats are unable to live in peace, a new home is a good option.
If all attempts to socialize you fail, there is a good chance that you are an alpha cat. An alpha cat exhibits the following:
- territorial, taking command of toys, bed, food
- extreme aggression toward others
- uninterested in becoming part of the community
- unwilling to accept and kind of training
My friends at Perfect Paws write, “Because the cat is not a pack animal, there is no inherent need or desire for the cat to comply with anyone’s wishes but its own.” They have a lot of good information.
I suspect that you, Mary, are trainable but are more interested in being Only Cat in Charge. We are now back to square one. If you really tried to get along, or if you really do not want to get along, a new home is a good idea. It is best if you are the only cat. Should there be a dog, just remember they are usually bigger and really like it if the cat shows some respect. Overall, though, it is best if you are an only pet.
This is a no blame, no shame situation. It is a positive move for all concerned. Sometimes cats just do not get along no matter what. I have complete faith the loving woman will find a good home for you. May you happily reign forever.
Your friend,
Fisher
We think you are just so beautiful, and if mommy could have you she would take you in a heart beat. Mommy says she is sayings prayers fur you ok?
Good luck getting along or finding a new home, whichever you choose. You are a beautiful kitty and deserve to be treated like a Queen!
We have several cats here that are just like you. They just don’t like other cats so they kind of just stay to themselves. And mostly they rule many of the others. Luckily we get to go outside, so we can stay to ourselves most of the time. And mom is very nice and finds places for us to eat where the other guys won’t bother us. Mom feels like it is because they were beaten up by other cats when they were kittens. And some cats are just meant to be in charge.